Loser

How does a person express their feelings? For myself, I bitch, complain, yell, cry when I am angry, frustrated. Encountered something today and I cannot interpret what is the person trying to tell me. Is he trying to comment so that I can improve and gain from there? Any hidden message? Say it out loud for goodness sake! I take it as a non-contructive comment. For revenge or to attract my attention, whatever it is he made me angry.